Friday, November 16, 2007
change to joy!
they won't be happy until he's happy, that's a trap for everyone.
How about YOU be first to live with joy?
If the boys' lives become more joyful, it will be easy for you and
your husband to relax and share in that joy.>
I think this was the most important piece of advice you were given and I
really encourage you take it. I am new here, but the information I've
gathered from Sandra's writings and other things I've found on this list
have changed my family forever. I've only recently discovered
unschooling myself, but it has inspired me to simply live my life to the
fullest and experience joy in my children. I made the choice, and I
never mentioned a word to my husband. I never asked him to help me with
anything (for fear he would think it was the latest "thing" I was
trying). I just chose to find joy. And, as a result, my house is
joyful. I didn't ask anyone to change, I changed. I became present in
every moment I had with my kids and I found the joy in what they were
doing. And, as a result, my kids are playing cooperatively and enjoying
their lives (and yes, I suppose learning too). Whether you start by
strewing or just sitting with your son, walking with him, playing with
him, whatever.. your husband will see the results and the joy and he
will just join in. Over time, it will just come naturally to him too.
Do it yourself and what Sandra is suggesting will happen. My husband
and I really are able to /relax and share the joy/. Instead of having
endless discussion about discipline, schedules, whatever... we're just
here, enjoying.
# posted by Anne @ 11:35 AM 
