Thursday, February 22, 2007
well my mother has come and gone. overall she was very negative during her entire visit. I really couldn't name one positive thing that occurred as a result of her presence here. she did not make the kids read to her or do other schooly things. but she did try to Teach them Lessons. And she was full of comments, criticisms and suggestions. she commented on us having too much stuff. and yet we have less stuff in the main living area of our home than ever before. I am not going to go into all the details, I have a headache. But I suggested several times that she go down and see the play room, which she never did. The only playing with the kids that she did was on her terms, things she wanted to do. I heard her dismiss them several times, when they were trying to tell her something, obviously not paying any attention to them and just talking about something else, like to me, barely acknowledging the child.
Oh I heard a ton of stuff about how terrible my nephew is. And the blame is all heaped on my SIL's head. Nephew has been ordered that he must go to counseling, or move out! My dear mother's suggestion!!!! Kevin doesn't think she is very happy with her life. She is certainly not spewing joy and happiness to others. The child is 16 and they are telling him he has to move out. She says, now he knows this is serious! Yes, I agree. There is a serious lack of love and compassion.
My mother is so focused on school things and controlling children. She doesn't seem to approve of compromise within a marriage either. Not to mention with children!
All the criticism and negativity.....we have enough of that from Kevin. So sad that my mother comes and brings her own, equally damaging, brand of it. Everything is about teaching them a lesson. I guess she figures it is her job, because we don't, or something. How to tell her nicely that it isn't her job? Of course she doesn't approve of the way my kids are not "up to grade level" my kindergartener doesn't even know his alphabet! What if Kevin dies and I have to go back to work, she asked. I informed her that I would not have to go back to work if he died! I already know how much money I will get. No worries there. She strongly feels that J needs "socialization" needs to be with other kids etc. I told her, which maybe wasn't so nice of me, that I would rather he have no friends then go to school and turn out like my nephew! Had to get my digs in, but its true I don't want any of them to go to school until its time for trade school or college if they so choose. Nor do I care if they are up to grade level or whatever. What I care about is happy children and a joyful family. Hard enough with mr raincloud kevin in the family but I am trying!
well I think I need to write my brother a letter.
Oh I heard a ton of stuff about how terrible my nephew is. And the blame is all heaped on my SIL's head. Nephew has been ordered that he must go to counseling, or move out! My dear mother's suggestion!!!! Kevin doesn't think she is very happy with her life. She is certainly not spewing joy and happiness to others. The child is 16 and they are telling him he has to move out. She says, now he knows this is serious! Yes, I agree. There is a serious lack of love and compassion.
My mother is so focused on school things and controlling children. She doesn't seem to approve of compromise within a marriage either. Not to mention with children!
All the criticism and negativity.....we have enough of that from Kevin. So sad that my mother comes and brings her own, equally damaging, brand of it. Everything is about teaching them a lesson. I guess she figures it is her job, because we don't, or something. How to tell her nicely that it isn't her job? Of course she doesn't approve of the way my kids are not "up to grade level" my kindergartener doesn't even know his alphabet! What if Kevin dies and I have to go back to work, she asked. I informed her that I would not have to go back to work if he died! I already know how much money I will get. No worries there. She strongly feels that J needs "socialization" needs to be with other kids etc. I told her, which maybe wasn't so nice of me, that I would rather he have no friends then go to school and turn out like my nephew! Had to get my digs in, but its true I don't want any of them to go to school until its time for trade school or college if they so choose. Nor do I care if they are up to grade level or whatever. What I care about is happy children and a joyful family. Hard enough with mr raincloud kevin in the family but I am trying!
well I think I need to write my brother a letter.
# posted by Anne @ 2:15 PM 
