Family of 6 in PA

its so hard to know what the right thing to do is regarding children and their education. i want to unschool my kids. then I wonder, can I do it or will I just ruin their lives trying. otoh dh wants to do school-at-home with our oldest. which of course the boy is not interested in! I am trying to educate dh about unschooling, which ain't easy, especially since I am still trying to educate myself about it! now I am facing a visit from my mother next weekend and she is sure to find out that I have done absolutely 0 school work with our 6 yo this year. and its not that I don't want to do anything with him....I do, but I am not motivated. oh there goes dh cursing and yelling at our oldest....they are in the school room working out of the school text book. I am really not happy about that. Things were going fine until I had the baby....ever since then, I have been unable to get into the swing of things. of course dh loves to threaten to send him back to school which makes me cringe. i don't want him or any of my kids to go to school. I want them to be free to live and learn. but I am also so afraid that I will end up neglecting them while thinking I am unschooling. I would like to throw away the past and start over! I did well following the sonlight schedule.....maybe I should go back to that style and type up a schedule like that for my kindergartener and preschooler. maybe that would help motivate me. I dunno. as for the oldest boy....sigh....I just dunno.