Family of 6 in PA

kevin was oxygen starved. he is way better now. he is resigned that jeffrey is not going back. he worked out a plan with jeffrey for the rest of the week. he called his mom and she told him it will be good for jeffrey to stay home. 6 hours is way too long. so at last we are easing out of the tense state we have been in. i mentioned several times how great he was with jeffrey today, spending time with him doing what jeffrey wanted to do. i told him how much better everything will be if he will be an involved parent. i explained that jeffrey needs to be a cup filled with loving attention, and its when his cup runs low that we have so many problems. if kevin can keep up the positive interactions jeffrey will be a changed person! he thrives on daddy attention. he needs his love and approval so much. earlier, before his turnabout, kevin said he could give him that kind of attention after school. well it had already been proven that he can't. i just don't think school is the right environment for jeffrey, unless we medicated him, which we don't want to do. if we can keep his cup filled up, he will be much more receptive to the one on one instruction that only we can give him.