Family of 6 in PA

Colleen was baptised on Aug 20. The baptism went great. My sister has come and gone. she called Sat night at 10 to clarify directions and started talking some shit, and talked a lot of shit on Sunday, including during Mass, at which time she informed me that me and my kids were welcome to visit my father but not kevin. I was like, huh????? Either her or my brother Stephen or both of them were talking shit about Kevin to him, and of course to my mother....I have never heard so many lies....I have come to the conclusion that she is a compulsive liar, who lies just because, for no reason, and also lies to cause trouble.....she told me some lies about my uncle Chris too. I think I know Kevin better than anyone else including his mother so I have a right to talk shit about him at times but that doesn't give other people the right to spread lies about him or blow up something I have said to make it worse or outright wrong. I am really pissed off, and you can imagine how Kevin feels....he doesn't ever want her back in his house again. I am thinking the less contact with them the better. That goes for ALL of my family. Even my mother, she has been pulling some shit here since she got here with my kids. I am so over it! Last night my sister was trying to talk me into moving to the mountains of VA....said it wouldn't be hot there and I'd only be an hour from my mother instead of 3 hours.....HELLO????? Did my mother have to move there, she could have moved closer to me but oh no, she wouldn't want to move up here where there are too many racists!!! And today she told Kevin's Aunt Mary that it doesn't get hot in Wash D.C.....um....what fucking planet is she from??? It gets hotter there than in VA Beach!!! See when I heard that, that's when I reached the conclusion that she must be a compulsive liar. I mean, I've known she was a liar for years and years. But to say something like that? There is something wrong with that girl. Last night she was saying stuff about how I have a white family but the rest of them don't (meaning her, and 2 of my brothers, who have inter-racial marriages...hispanic and asian) so I don't know what its like or whatever....I'm like so what? Just cuz she feels like she has to live in the city to avoid racism, that means I should move to the city too? Something twisted like that. How many times do I have to tell her that I love my house, am very happy here, and have no intention of ever moving again? I have told her many times but she still keeps at it like maybe there is a chance I will change my mind? And what's it to her if I do??? I didn't agree with the way she treated her daughter while she was here, which is fine she's not my child, but there were some interactions with my children I didn't like either! And she was only here a few hours!

So...I couldn't hold it in and brought up some stuff with my mom. *apparently* its my father's wife who doesn't like kevin or something....she is a wierd person who likes to talk critically about people. I can buy that. that doesn't make my sister any less of a liar though. and a sneak. and my mother is just as sneaky in her own way. kevin says she doesn't act like a grandmother at all, but a traveling school teacher. and my mom was saying well your sister loves you and wants what's best for you and the kids blah blah blah...ok, well of course my mom sees her through rose-colored glasses. my sister is a complete idiot and always has been. and she is jealous of me and has been since we were very small children. my mom can't see that. probly wouldn't believe it. but I've lived it, I know it. because of her jealousy, small-mindedness and mean streak, she will say *anything* to make herself look better and others look bad. that's just the way she is.

so, here is the real kicker. my mom forgot to log out of her email account from my computer and my dh got into it. here is what my mom wrote Sunday night:

I'd suggest you don't say anything else to her about Kevin. She's very upset.

And here is what my sister replied:

That is too bad. I could tell she was. I guess the truth hurts, especially if you are in denial. I left felling sad, that maybe I would never see the children again. I am quite sure she will twist it on me, that I am the bad guy. Abused people always protect the abuser. It is just like the eating disorder, she hides it, won't talk about it. You can only heal by facing the truth, and you can only do that if you want to. I am sad for her, but there is nothing I can do.


Can you believe this shit? I'd like to know what "truth" hurts?? And does she think I have an eating disorder that I am hiding??? WTF? yeah I had one but not since 1985!!! And no I never shared it with my mother, does that mean I was/am hiding it? No, it means it was a personal thing and the only person I shared it with was my HUSBAND. Actually he is the reason I QUIT it!!!! Does she think I still have it? I am SO pissed now. I knew they were talking shit and now I have the proof. I am over it.