Thursday, July 13, 2006
more on control
From a list, and I know this is true!:
The truth is, we DON'T have control of other people...only the
illusion of control. How long do you want to hold onto that illusion?
It'll last while they're very little, but not much longer. The older
they get, the more they KNOW they're empowered to make their own
choices, whether you know it or not.
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The only person we really have control over is ourselves. Just like the only person we can really change is ourselves. I am trying to let go of my controlling tendencies. I try to guide and suggest instead of order and control.
I have been observing, and I see everyday that my 8 yo is reading, writing and doing math. However he is not reading novels or writing stories or doing math work sheets as he would at school. But that is ok! That is still reading, writing and math! It is work he is doing on his own without anyone telling him to! I believe he has decided NOT to go to school in the fall. Yay! I hope that he will choose to join in with us while I do FIAR with the younger kids. And all the other projects that I have in mind. Art, science. And I really hope he will agree without coercion to do the math lessons with me!
The truth is, we DON'T have control of other people...only the
illusion of control. How long do you want to hold onto that illusion?
It'll last while they're very little, but not much longer. The older
they get, the more they KNOW they're empowered to make their own
choices, whether you know it or not.
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The only person we really have control over is ourselves. Just like the only person we can really change is ourselves. I am trying to let go of my controlling tendencies. I try to guide and suggest instead of order and control.
I have been observing, and I see everyday that my 8 yo is reading, writing and doing math. However he is not reading novels or writing stories or doing math work sheets as he would at school. But that is ok! That is still reading, writing and math! It is work he is doing on his own without anyone telling him to! I believe he has decided NOT to go to school in the fall. Yay! I hope that he will choose to join in with us while I do FIAR with the younger kids. And all the other projects that I have in mind. Art, science. And I really hope he will agree without coercion to do the math lessons with me!
# posted by Anne @ 8:21 AM 
